Candles & Flames

“Absence diminishes mediocre passions and increases great ones, as the wind extinguishes candles and fans fires.” –
Francois de La Rochefoucauld

For the last few days I’d been contemplating writing a blog post about this subject. I knew eventually I would have to, but I didn’t know if I was up to it or not. But because I am the Mad Artist, believer in all things magical, I could not disregard the magic that is in this thing called love. Now, I am no relationship guru. I am not here to give advice or speak on things that I know nothing about. I am here to depart upon all who visit this magical place my view on this complicated, yet beautiful thing.

Where should I begin? My experiences with it? My theories behind it? Comparing and contrasting its positives and negatives? I am not sure. I guess anywhere is good.

To me the idea of love is – interesting. My views upon it are ever-growing, ever evolving. In my youth I thought it was the fluttering in the belly, the sweat of the palms, the stuttering of the lips, but no, not anymore.  It is so much more than that. So much more powerful. It is so powerful that it can send a person to Cloud 9 or make their worst nightmares come true. It can both evolve and devolve you in the very same moment. It is pure and true magic.

I, like most people, crave it and in that same breath fear it. I fear its crippling abilities. I fear the control it has over one and their emotions. I fear finding it then losing it. I fear making a mistake while handling it. I fear its use for dark purposes.

Wars have been started over love. Lives have been lost. Tears have been shed. It is such a powerful weapon that I pity the person that doesn’t have a single ounce of fear of it.

But as the Mad Artist, I tend not to let my fear of it stand in the way of the joy it brings. There is always light at the end of the tunnel, as well as a silver lining under all the muck. Love is such a pure thing and it is what you make of it. You may not have the power to control who you fall in love with but you do have the power over how it is being used.

I believe that there are different types of love and that you can love more than one person. There is no type of love higher than the other, they are supposed to coexist. Used the right way, I believe love can help you evolve into a better you. It can help you be more understanding, compassionate, and open. It can help you see past the ignorance, hatred, and negative energy that plagues this world and combat it.

I chose the quote above because it called to me. There is a different between lust and love. Lust will wane over time, but love will stay strong even when people are apart. If two people are meant to be together it will happen and there is not a thing anyone or anything can do to stop it, sans death. The universe has a way of joining people together even when then there is resistance. I have learned over the years that without obstacles, and a bit of trials a person cannot understand nor appreciate the beauty that pure love is.

True love will always find its way.



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